If you are a parent, you probably understand how little things can turn into big things. Many people choose to ignore small problems instead of dealing with them. Though this can work for some issues, it is not always the best way to deal with problems.
On some occasions, ignoring mild misbehavior is an effective strategy for parents. It lets your children know they can get your attention with their antics. It decreases the chances of them repeating these misbehaviors in the future. Not all behavior should be ignored, though. If it is, it could potentially lead to problems that are worse in the future. Below are several behaviors you should never ignore.
- Interrupting you: every child gets excited and wants to tell you what is happening in their world. If they butt into another conversation, though, you allowing that shows them that it’s okay. This teaches them that being inconsiderate is acceptable. It does not teach them to figure out ways to occupy their own time. Instead, when this happens, let your child know you are busy and will get back to them soon.
- Truth exaggeration: children will try to get away with a white lie every once in a while. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but you are teaching them that lying is okay. After the age of four, the typically developing child will understand what it is why. Deal with this by praising them when they tell the truth, and enforcing discipline when they lie.
- Ignoring you: we have all been ignored and ignored others. This does not make it all right, though. You should never have to repeat yourself several times your child. Your job is to train your child. When your child ignores you, it’s a power play on their part. If your child ignores you, what to where they are in with them in the eyes. Have them respond to you once you have told them what to do. If they do not respond, it is time to start taking things away.
- Too much rough play: if your children are being aggressive, whether it’s subtle or not, you need to nip it in the bud. Otherwise, you are showing them that hurting people is acceptable. We your child aside to let them know their behavior is not okay and they could hurt someone. If they continue the behavior, you may need to separate them from others until they are willing to try a different approach.
- Having an attitude: attitude start with preschoolers, as they mimic the behavior they see in their parents to see how they will react. Many parents will ignore the behavior because they think it is a phase. If you do choose to ignore it, it will get a lot worse later. It will get to the point where you feel like you can no longer control it. You need to let your child know that this behavior is not okay. Tell them how their behavior makes you feel, and start instituting discipline if they continue it.
As parents, we all face these issues with our children. It’s never too late to start changing these behaviors, though. Once you decide to start working on these behaviors, stick with it and you will see the payoff soon.